Getting Over Anger

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Anger is a natural response to a perceived threata threat to our security, pride, to our family, etc. Everyone gets angry. What we need to focus on what happens after we get angry.

Artistotle said, "Anyone can become angry. This is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not easy."

What is your anger style? Do you avoid your anger at all costnever let anyone know you are angry but seethe on the inside? Perhaps you rage at the drop of a hat, ready to defend yourself against any perceived slight. Do you reactive angrily by habit and instead of expressing other emotions like sadness or fear?

Healthy anger does exist. You have healthy approach to anger when you:
• Accept anger as a normal part of life
• Use anger as a signal to take some sort of action
• Screen your angry actionsyou don't automatically get angry just because you could
• Express anger in moderation so there is no loss of control
• Strive to solve problems, not just express anger
• Are able to let go of the anger after the problem has been resolved (from R. Potter-Efrom - Letting Go of Anger)

Chronic anger can contribute to high blood pressure and increase the risk of sudden cardiac death (Williams & Williams, 1994, Anger Kills). People with unmanaged anger are more likely to suffer from depression and burnout.

The first step is an awareness of the problem. If your boss or someone in your life has told you more than once that you have a problem with anger, pay attention. No one can make you angrygetting angry is your choice. Once you accept the responsibility for your anger, the next step is to do something about it!

The rewards for dealing with your anger are ongoingincreased self-esteem, better health, increased optimism, greater productivity at work, better relationships with your co-workers, family and friends. Now, who doesn't want that?