Expecting Too Much from Women

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Most men are expecting too much from women from the point they meet them through the entire beginning of the relationship. Their energy is comprised of a little desperation and a little too much neediness.

Because of the way society purports the female form, a man gets hungrier and hungrier just to have a 'piece of the pie'. When he is with a woman who he thinks he may have a chance with, he is a little too eager.

I have been there before and maybe you have as well in your past. Women can pick up this sense of neediness. This displays you will act really interested in her, leaning forward to listen to every word she says, and finding yourself agreeing with much of what she says (you will even find yourself grinning from ear to ear and smiling too much like a silly monkey). All of these are signs that you really are just a little too desperate.

Women can really sense what you are interested in doing with them. Sometimes these things are so subtle that you may not even notice that you were doing them, but trust me, she can tell and she knows.

And that may be the exact reason why she won't let men have a chance to 'get the cookie' from her, because she wants to find a man were both she and him can be pleased instead of the man just trying to get something from her by pretending to be really interested in her upfront.

Your body language is raising massive red flags to her to prevent you from having any chance with her because she knows you are ultimately interested in probably just having sex with her. When you expect too much from her and start feeling (if you are aware) that your actions are too clingy or needy, you are not being the independent man that she wants you to be.

When you're acting like that you say to yourself that you have finally 'got one' and you want to hold onto her so you try and squeeze a little harderthis will just make her want to wriggle away from you. I used to do this they a lot when I was younger and always wondered why I did not have much success with these (American) women. Maybe you can relate.

If you understand the psychology of these women, they do not want to have too much expectation, obligation or pressure up front in the beginning of the relationship as they are not specifically looking for marriage like their traditional counterparts (moreso).

They want it to be natural and they want to be able to trust you as a man because you have enough self-control that you know how to please and 'give' to her instead of just taking from her. She expects you to be a solid man and not be all emotional like she is.

The reason that you are probably expecting too much has a lot to do with how you were programmed in our cultural society, which places a heavy importance and added value on the beauty of a woman. Reading 'A Shark Tale' Chapter in my 'Mens Guide to Women' will really help this sink in.

So when you start approaching women from the new mindset that I can teach you, you will understand that being a natural with women is when you do not expect really much of anything at all with them, but know how to naturally take things to the next level without giving her a creepy feeling.

You retain your power and know that you can leave her at any time and it really does not bother you. In this case you are not expecting too much from the woman, therefore she is not as likely to just wriggle away from you like she wants to do to all of the other creepy yet nice guys who are wearing their intentions on their sleeves yet are trying to be really nice to cover it up.

Even the second and third time that you meet her to hang out and just have a fun and sexually tense time together, you are still retaining your own center and you know that she is attracted to you.

You do not have to try too hard to push her into getting into the sack with you, because it will most likely happen naturally if you are fully congruent with your reality and the tension is there. Yes there are things you can do which I will teach you in my 'Model Magnet' series where you can rapidly accelerate this process, but just being a man who is cool, sexually playful, and a bit mysterious should keep her in your reality.

And if you frame the relationship from the get go that you are not doing a 50-50 or traditional 'dating' approach (where you will keep buying her expensive meals), and that you are a sexual man and nature that you can naturally lead the relationship where you want to go and she will most likely go with you as long as you are cool and congruent with your reality.

You are not expecting too much from her, you are not getting a little tense or angry when she might slightly reject your moving forward, you know how to hold yourself back and have self-control (this means very little 'groping'), and you just naturally laid-back and have her attracted to you. She should be the one touching you way more often than you touching her. When you are making out, pull back a little to balance out the situation and pull her into your realityotherwise you may appear to eager.

This is easy to naturally lead thanks to the next level when you do not get ahead of yourself, too eager, to anxious, or expect too much. It is a balancing formula that works because I have done it many times, but just keep in mind further down the road if you do start developing more emotions about this specific girl, do not expect too much or place too much pressure on her to meet with whatever your demands or ideas might be.

If you feel that you have said too much, than just back off and maybe even walk away. You have to maintain the proper balance and dynamic of sexual tension between the two of you. If you go ahead and overkill by expecting too much of her she will often run away.

It is best when she is attracted to your reality and almost expects too much sex from you, and that is the way it should be and is the way she wants it. In order to really not let your emotions overtake you, you have to really see things from a different paradigm completely. I can teach you this with my 'Men's Guide to Women'.

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