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Behavior Strategies to Use At Home
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Author: Kelly Nault Article source: http://parentingtoolbox.com/. Used with author's permission.
It's a fact: parenting is the most demanding job on earth! If you have ever
thought about handing in your parenting resignation letter after a particularly trying day
with the kids, you're not alone. Fortunately, having effective behavior
strategies to use at home can mean the difference between thriving in your job
as parent or struggling through days and weeks of conflict, chaos and
frustration.
We need a license to drive, a license to get married, even a license to fish!
Yet anyone who can conceive, can parent. Or can they?
Times have changed and parenting today requires different skills than it did
only decades ago. The good news is that these behavior strategies, although not
commonly used, are commonsense and can be easily learned!
Behavior Strategies to Keep You Out of the Parenting Deep End
1. Use a "Distraction Action" - This behavior strategy from chapter nine
of my book When You're About To Go Off The Deep End, Don't Take Your Kids With
You is a favorite among parents, especially those with preschoolers. Instead of
saying "No" when a child is doing something you don't like, redirect their focus
to something positive. Say something like, "WOW! Look over here," or "Would you
please help me to…?" The key is to be excited about the new focus and to walk
towards it (away from what it is they are focused on).
2. Go on Strike - Most parents do way too much for their children and rob
their kids of the opportunity to exercise that all important responsibility
muscle by doing things for themselves. The easiest way to stop doing this is to
simply go on strike! Just don't do it anymore. The more you go on strike with a
smile on your face, the more this behavior strategy works. For example, making
dinner doesn't have to be a solo event. Have the rest of the family make dinner
with you (or even for you). This strategy can work for spouses too!
3. Play Together to Stick Together - Why do children act out? You got it!
Kids often act out to get attention. The more positive attention they have in
their life, the less likely they'll need to negatively act out. Play more with
your kids! Laugh more with them! Hug them more! And love them more! Many of the
readers of my book are delighted to find there are numerous ways to play
together—even while doing chores around the house—and they are often astonished
that kids can actually learn to like (and even remember) to do their chores!
Behavior strategies like these can make a world of difference to raising a
happy, compassionate and responsible child. They can also mean less stress for
you as a parent, which is something all children ultimately want. Be committed
to learning new behavior strategies to use at home. You and your children
deserve a home in which all of you will thrive and not just simply survive.
Kelly Nault, MA author of When You're About To Go Off The Deep End,
Don't Take Your Kids With You inspires moms to put themselves first—for the
sake of their children. She shares time-tested tools that motivate children to
want to be well behaved, responsible and happy! Sign up for her
free online parenting course here.
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